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Aboslutely! This is your day, not hers. She has been hired to plan your vision. You and your fiancee need to sit down with her and let her know that she has been hired by you to perform a service for you. If personalities are clashing put her in check...quickly.

She has experience though and she should be letting you know what works well and what doesn't, but the overall fantasy is yours and a true professional realizes that. Do not give her any more money until she understands this and if she throws a fit...tell her it is your way or the highway period!

Don't be too much of a diva though, be realistic and fair and you will get what you want.

Dear Terry,

  My wedding planner has begun taking over my ceremony. She gets huffy when I ask about details and says that I have hired her and her vision. I have not given her the other 1/2 of payment yet and don't know what to do. I need to make sure things go as I want them, not her..right?

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A gracious hostess will always drink from the bottles her guests were kind enough to bring. They should all be placed on the table for public consumption. You may follow her lead by tasting theirs, and then have a glass of hers as well. Make a comment about how they all look so good and you want to try them all, that way you can take a little of everyone's without getting too much too drink or offending anyone.

You can turn the problem into an opportunity to discuss the different types if you like. Always tell the hostess how much you enjoyed everything and tell everyone else thank you for adding a wine tasting to a fabulous meal.

Dear Terry,

What do I do when I am invited to a dinner party and some people bring wine when the hostess has her own provided? Do you drink the hostesses or the others from her guests?